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We are all Johnny Depp! How To Move On When Dealing With a Narcissist.

The trial helped us awake to the brutal truth: narcissistic abuse is an invisible yet deadly healthcare pandemic that must be spoken about.

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Last week, NBC broadcast Amer Heard’s first interview since the trial verdict. In the interview, Amber speaks of feeling silenced by the defamation verdict, which she says is precisely what it intended to do. A jury found that Amber Heard defamed Johnny Depp, but the actress says she has no plans to backtrack on what she said about him in court.

Amber doubled down on her accusations that Depp abused her and deflected questions about her on-tape statements to him, while speaking to NBC’s Savannah Guthrie.

To my dying day, I will stand by every word of my testimony.

Amber Heard

But it seems that  Amber is still speaking – an observation shared by many on social media who accuse Amber of continuing her alleged abuse of Johnny and refusing to “move on” by giving the interview and preparing for the appeal.

Is Amber Heard a Narcissist?

Even though Amber wasn’t officially diagnosed with Narcisstic Personality Disorder. One must wonder whether Amber is a narcissist. Two years ago, Johnny Depp stated:

If I had known then what I know now, I would have seen the red flag warning signs, but I did not. She bombed me with what appeared to be love. It was not until much later that I understood that she had an agenda, namely to get married to me in order to progress her own career and/or to benefit financially, and she knew how to bring it about. She is a calculating, diagnosed borderline personality; she is sociopathic; she is a narcissist; and she is completely emotionally dishonest. I am now convinced that she came into my life to take from me anything worth taking, and then destroy what remained of it.

Johnny Depp

Oddly, Amber Heard was only diagnosed with BPD and HPD which are treatable DSM-5 diagnoses if one has the willpower to do so. While NPD is much harder to treat, due to NPD individuals’ lack of awareness.

Reasons Amber Heard Could Be a Narcissist

There are several reasons why this may be the case. First, Amber has a history of manipulating those around her to get what she wants. For example, she has been known to gaslight her ex-partners and friends in order to get them to do what she wants.

Amber is extremely self-centered and always puts her own needs first. She has been known to neglect her friends and family in order to focus on her own career.

Lastly, she is often described as being manipulative. She has been known to use people for her own gain, and she does not hesitate to hurt others in order to get what she wants. 

Additionally, Amber is continuing to play a victim card. Blaming the jury, Johnny’s lovable character, and “unfair” social media portrayal that allegedly contributed to her losing the case. Amber knows that the only way she can get attention anymore is by playing the victim card.

That is why perhaps she has chosen to go and speak on NBC and is currently planning to publish a book, while she was the one taunting Johnny on audio tapes to write a book.

She has lied on the stand and the jury and the public have seen it, especially when it comes to her sworn testimony of donating the money. The motto of the narcissist is “Lie Till You Die” that’s perhaps why she is using the same exact words “To my dying day, I will stand by every word of my testimony.” It’s her defense mechanism. She was hurt in past, abused, and became a narcissist because of this unsolved emotional trauma and abuse. 

She may have grown up with parents that lie, manipulate, abuse, and are narcissist themselves so it became natural for her to act the way she does. As Dr. Jamies says “Hurt People, Hurt People.”

The truth is though that even though she displays severe narcissistic traits she’s also a human being, even though she seems to be acting maliciously, even post-trial. A narcissist often has:

  • Zero sense of self-worth.
  • Lack of empathy.
  • At times behaves “less than a human.”
  • And tends to do all in their power to make other people miserable as they are. 

When dealing with a narcissist in your life, what should you do?

If you are one of the luckier people and are not bonded with children then the simple solution would be to leave and end the relationship. The problem can of course occur when the narcissist doesn’t leave you alone: keeps harassing, stalking you, and belittling you either directly or by proxy. 

If you are divorced and have children with a narcissist, then quite often narcissists will involve you in a legal battle and the post-separation abuse would follow which can be more painful than the abuse that you’ve suffered during the relationship itself. Especially since narcissists tend to target children and alienate them from the other parent. It can be quite an ordeal for the whole family, especially leaving devastating effects on the child’s future healthy development. 

At PMH we would like to emphasize that the first initial step when you are dealing with a narcisstic individual in your life is to heal and put your oxygen mask first. No matter if you are a parent, non-parent, or stepparent. Your mental health comes first.

The things that you can do straight away when you’ve realized that you are dealing with a narcissist in your life: be it your current/ex-partner, friend, parent, sibling, co-worker or manager is to:

Share Your Truth!

After Amber Heard’s appearance on NBC, Johnny’s team finally responded saying: “It’s unfortunate that while Johnny is looking to move forward with his life, the defendant and her team are back to repeating, reimagining, and re-litigating matters that have already been decided by the court and a verdict that was unequivocally decided by a jury in Johnny’s favor.”

A longtime friend of Johnny, Isaac Baruch who was a witness in the trial pleaded with Amber Heard to “heal”.

He stated: “I want this all to end. For her to go heal, him to go heal.”

From what we can observe is that Johnny Depp is moving on, or rather embarking on a rock’n’roll “healing tour” with legend Jeff Beck. He is currently touring on the European continent, far away from Holywood, drama, paparazzi, and Amber. In the latest tracks that he has released with Jeff Beck, we can hear his cries, especially in the track called “Isolation” and “This is the song for Miss Heddy Lamarr”.

Jeff’s guitar speaks for Johnny – it’s telling stories, screaming in pain, crying and all. Johnny’s soul can be felt through his words. He is sharing his joy and pain with us. And through music, makes us all a little more human. 

At PMH we encourage you to share your tales as well. Because in some sense we are all Johnny: we all have our strengths and weakness. We have our “addictions” and we’ve all felt injustice in this world. Johnny had the courage to admit his mistakes and own them.

Let’s applaud him and ourselves for being who we are: human beings – prone to making mistakes, having bad habits, getting hurt, and hurting others. But also being able to rise above the anguish and get better. Everyday day on this Earth can be viewed as a challenge or a miracle, it’s all matter of perspective. 

We invite you to speak up and share your survival and recovery stories. Why?

Because it is beneficial for your healing and will become the foundation of international public health, education, and awareness campaign.

Sharing stories is the only way we can connect as human beings.

Mila

Learning more about someone and their story enables us to understand them on a different level and form a deeper connection. For those of you who are struggling to open up, remember: 

There is no greater agony than bearing a story untold inside you. 

Maya Angelou

 

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